Why I dont make promises ????

I dont make promises. All I can give is my promise to do the best but nothing more.

Why I dont do that, I dont know. Why can't I do that, I dont know. Maybe its my male ego, commitment issues or some moral complexes that forbids me to do so. Maybeits my concept of self rightousness where I believe that people should accept me as I say and don't insist on promises.

Or maybe its the acceptance of the fact that I am still a human being. How righteous or morally right i consider myself, I am still a human. A human which is prone to mistakes and who is tied strongly to his surrounding and to the eventuality of the circumstances. Whatever I believe I cannot always do and I still have to bear the burdain of doing what I dont wanted to do in the first place.

It can be any of the reason for anyone in the world and I made a choice to believe in the last reason. I accept my weakness and I wish not to fail anyone ever. I wonder how many people feel the same or is it only me that needs to conquer my fears and still make my way through life of myself and others attached to me.

-- A thought by myself

Shouting vs. Whisper

'Why do we shout in anger?' A saint asked his disciples, 'Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?'

His disciples thought for a while, one of them said, 'Because we lose our calm, we shout for that.'

'But, why do you shout when the other person is just next to you?' asked the saint. 'Isn't it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do you shout at a person when you're angry?'

Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the saint.

Finally he explained, 'When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other through that great distance.'

Then the saint asked, 'What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, why? Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small...'

The saint continued, 'When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all. That is how close two
people are when they love each other.

'MORAL' said the saint: 'When you argue do not let your hearts get distant, do not say words that distance each other more, else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return!'

--From Pravs J

Year 2008

Good Bye 2008 and Welcome to a new year 2009....

Its just a day which will pass yet it marks the end of year and invites us to think what we have found and lost in the last year.

- Did we made good use of knowledge from previous years???
- Could we have made this year better???
- How can we make the coming year better for us and all the people around us???

I grieve for all the people we saw being killed. My heart cries for innocent people who were killed in Pakistan, my homeland, for people who were killed in Palestine, for people who were killed in IRAQ and Afghanistan, for people who died in Mumbai and I only see death toll rising every year.





I am a very naive person who likes to stick to his views. I like to survive and prosper but I can never understand the politics which make us kill our own people for *greater good* ...... Every day this pain lives and gets stronger.









And with enough killings going on, I think I did have a lot of good things happening and the best thing that happened to me was Mahwish; my fiance. She is the one whom my parents chose and the relationship which started as an Arrange Marriage to be, i think it will be a love marriage for 2009... :) .... She is sweet, loving, caring, patient and she fits well in my family. Its something which every guy can wish for and I am very happy that God has blessed me with her. Love you sweets..... :)

and than another thing exciting and interesting was my Germany trip which also took me to Paris, France. There i met some very nice people and some not so nice people and that thing signify only one thing: There are good and bad people everywhere and its only our action that determines if we are really good or bad.

An year has passed and I hope that we see many more with more peace, love and justice for everyone. I hope that I can give more meaning to my life and people around me. I want to dedicate this year to my family, my friends and my work all of which keeps pushing me to to do better in life for myself and others.

Cheers 2008.
JS

Did you really choose to read this article ?

An interesting philosophic question to ponder..... :)


Suppose that Fred existed shortly after the Big Bang. He had unlimited intelligence and memory, and knew all the scientific laws governing the universe and all the properties of every particle that then existed. Thus equipped, billions of years ago, he could have worked out that, eventually, planet Earth would come to exist, that you would too, and that right now you would be reading this article.

After all, even back then he could have worked out all the facts about the location and state of every particle that now exists.

And once those facts are fixed, so is the fact that you are now reading this article. No one's denying you chose to read this. But your choice had causes (certain events in your brain, for example), which in turn had causes, and so on right back to the Big Bang. So your reading this was predictable by Fred long before you existed. Once you came along, it was already far too late for you to do anything about it.

Now, of course, Fred didn't really exist, so he didn't really predict your every move. But the point is: he could have. You might object that modern physics tells us that there is a certain amount of fundamental randomness in the universe, and that this would have upset Fred's predictions. But is this reassuring? Notice that, in ordinary life, it is precisely when people act unpredictably that we sometimes question whether they have acted freely and responsibly. So freewill begins to look incompatible both with causal determination and with randomness. None of us, then, ever do anything freely and responsibly."


--Link to source site : <http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/magazine/7739493.stm>

Story of a Life

Every person has a story. When we meet them, they become a part of our story just like we become a part of them. Than people depart and story continues. This is the way of life where nobody is indispensable, nobody is essential and its just a story which continues.

The Troubled Times

There are times when everything goes bad. Days are gloomy and nights are lonely. People can't be trusted and no achievement is possible. Only thing that can take us through this phase is the faith. Only if we put in the faith and continues our way, than every phase of life is destined to pass away.

Opportunity and Decisions

When opportunity knocks on your door, take it. Once you have it with you, you can always decide what to do next..... BUT if there is nothing in your hand, there is nothing you can decide....

Why????

All the times in life are meant to come and go. No matter, they are happy times, sad times or tough times, they are just there for that moment.....

What is it than that make us take all the miseries along with us and leave the good things behind. If only could people learn to live with the optimism in their lives and take all the bad happenings as nothing but the experience only........

--Self Thought

Micro Management vs Macro Management

What's it with Micro-management that it intrigues people?

Maybe feeling of having the absolute control drives it or the Mistrust on people or fear of loss is the motivation behind micro-management. But what happens when things are micro-managed in medium to large sized environments. It shatters the trust of people being effected. On the purpose of building own confidence people easily disregard what they are doing around to others.

On the other hand, where Macro-management heavily relies on delegation, it does have its pitfalls as well. People can become casual and relax with their responsibilities. Where as the business can get some blows if not managed at every level and by every person, it still thrives on blooming of individual assessment of task in hand and upbringing of sense of responsibility in everyone.

What will be my choice. I believe I am a strong pro for Macro-Management. Though initial results might be risky but thats something which results in long term very well in terms of business and being a human being. Thats my call... :)

-- Written on the Assignment of new project :D

I want to live.....

I want to Live

- A life which is spent for others
- A life which is cherished by everyone.
- A life which gives the feeling of happiness to others
- A life which brings a positive difference in the society, how small it is

I want to die.....

I want to die

- Contended FOR I didn't do anything which cannot be forgiven by Almighty on the judgment day.
- Peacefully For thats the only thing i wish in my life and find it hardest to get.
- Knowing that I haven't hurt somebody FOR this is the worst a man can know.
- leaving people with smiles FOR only this will show that my love was strong enough to leave the smiles around and no tears.

Logic vs. Emotions

Logic can conquer all the emotions but never the heart.

Revenge of Soul

How is it felt to be left alone? to be disowned by anyone, not looked after ... It does sound terrible but it sure happens.

Can things develop a same feeling? Can thoughts, words develop the same feeling? Im not sure about things but the soul which lies in every living thing is surely effected by things like that. When we commit something we don't intend to keep, when we hurt someone knowingly it hurts the soul. and than its the conscious which is the soul's way of revenge.

With all happening within our heart, mind and soul I don't understand how people keep quiet. Where I admit that not everyone is strong enough to do the right thing, are we so numb and weak that we can't separate the right from wrong? It hurts and I'm afraid this is something which I will have nothing to answer in my life time.

God helps us and have mercy on us. Amen !

Stress

Stress is to refuse to accept a circumstance in your life to which you have no control. Stress is measured by the amount of energy that you invest resisting those circumstances. Stress is to waste energy attempting with your thoughts and feelings to change a person, an event or a circumstance around you.

The trick to avoid stress is to realize that no amount of effort can ever change the circumstances while they are happening to you, no matter how bad. Do no oppose the moment, instead accept and feel what is occurring.

--Thanks to Arsalan bhai for his above comments

Behaviors

Why people behave so inappropriate sometimes? When they are not ready to understand other person and don't want to give any space? It hurts like hell and its only faith that keeps us going. The fear is there of "what if things don't get better" or "what if they move from bad to worse"...

Hope is the light that can diminish these fears and action is something which will stop these fears from coming to vision again.

Second Chances

I believe in second chances.

The path might be different, different people, different situation but God always bestow us with second chance to redeem what we have done and claim the good in us.

Avail every second chance you have, Give people their second chance and feel big, open and great at heart. To accept people as they are and make your way through has the greatest power.

Loved Ones

We have friends and family and people we value. How much we value them, we don't know until we realize that we will lose them. The time we know that they are no longer there and than we realize how precious they are, it hurts inside and it hurts bad.

Irony is that life has its own way of continuation; unbounded by the human desire of way of operations. So life continues in times when we want to seize it and it stops when we want to last forever.

and what happens after we lose people and life continues?? Sometimes, life is strong enough to make us forget what happened and sometimes events stay there; as guilt, as distraction, as a source of smile or as a mere memory that pinch the heart and bring a smile on the face.

Important thing is that we should value whatever we have, whatever we had. The power of forgiveness and love is something which is unmatched by any other and is only brought by the character big enough to conquer our fear and rage and admit where we flawed.

-- For the people that were in my life once and are no more. I do love you all no matter what.
JS

When hatrid grows

And people say that there are others who oppose them and who hate them and our belief is not complete unless we annihilate others. What we don't understand is that we are becoming what we despise. I don't know if this is right or wrong but what i do know is that its belief for some and business for others. Real irony is that almost everyone believe that they are doing the right thing when they are being driven by so many factors that they don't even want to consider.

When fights go beyond the battle grounds and reach the homes in terms of the cultural values, moral beliefs and social structure; it gets very gray between good and bad. How to identify whats right and wrong? how to identify good intentions vs malicious intentions??? how to draw the line between actions and intentions????

The Troubled Times

These are the times when there are things going extremely wrong. How much I despise them, they seem to go on and on and on. I hate it when people don't accommodate each other. I dread it when life believes to extinct other life for their own existence and not so because its their only way to survive but because they want to do it. How can someone want others to die when we understand that every life is equally important and have every right to live as any other human being.

These are the times when you have to take a side or make your own side. This is how world has survived and this is how it will survive.

And the Journey Begins

And thee was walking down a lonesome long road; feet tired, shoulders down and path way long. The times was as such when one thinks if he can make it up to the end the way he wanted or if one can ever make it there. Suddenly there was a bilateral in front of him and he looked, paused and thought which way to go. The heart pointed a path and smiled and thee followed. Not sure he was if the decision was right. "What if I go back and take the other path??", asked himself the guy and the heart said "Believe in me and continue for you will have your fair reward in due time". And suddenly there was this bright light in front of him through which he couldn't see. He was stunned. The light was testing yet soothing and thee was astonished as of the source of such a light.

and than came down someone from that light; someone whose beauty was unmatched and how had this soothing aura around her. She was like someone divine and his heart skipped a beat. "And you have your due reward now" said the heart. Thee was looking there in confusion. "What if doesn't work? What if I fail?" asked the mind. "How can you know unless you try?", replied the heart. Thee was standing there listening to all this dialog not sure what to do. And than the sound came from the divine light "Don't worry and don't question yourself. I am afraid too. Remember, I am not here to take your fears away but here so that we can fight them together. Lets move on this journey and see the wonders of the path we chose and all that come around us. Let us be each other shoulders and I promise I won't let you down".

and now thee walked with her, arms in arms to the destiny unknown on the mysterious path but with spirits high and hearts filled with joy, love and hope. No one knows if and when they will make it to destination but their determination and conviction. Than the heart and mind said in unison

"And the Journey Begins ........."


--- Written for Mahwish on our engagement. "You're precious to me dear :) "